‘Until you let go of all the toxic people in your life you will never be able to grow into your fullest potential. Let them go so you can grow’
These lines are in fact the second step in making your life better. The first step involves answering a very important question and that is’ Are you in a toxic relationship?’ A toxic relationship need not only be the one that you have with your partner. Any relationship can be a toxic one for that matter if it makes you feel suffocated and constricted in your present circumstances.
Such a relationship makes you feel as if you do not have a life of your own outside it and your growth, your personal interests, and even your free thinking seems to be stifled at times. That is how a toxic relationship feels like, eventually but then there are several subtle signs that present themselves as your relationship progresses. When you are smart enough to spot them early on, you are able to let go of the toxic people who are stunting your growth as an individual. If you can identify with any of these signs, then, it’s time for you to make your move.
Are You In a Toxic Relationship?
Here’s How to Find Out! Here are some common signs that show that you are in a toxic relationship. Let’s see them.
Communicating with each other becomes a task
You can’t seem to ever present your side in any discussion which seems more like a one-sided conversation where you stay silent. The matter at hand can be quite important or even something as small as what to make for dinner.
Any efforts by you to share your feelings are met with a hostile reaction that may be verbal, emotional and at times maybe even physical. Any kind of abuse is abuse in a toxic relationship even if it’s just verbal. This confrontation which you encounter can easily be classified as abuse too.
Your confidence takes a big hit
Have you started feeling that your personality has taken a turn for the negative because of a certain relationship in your life? You doubt yourself in everything that you do, right from deciding what to wear for a party to decide if it’s ok for you to participate in a discussion going on in the room. A healthy relationship helps you grow into something better than you already are.
However, in a toxic relationship, you seem to be in self-doubt and start to overanalyze your personality, behavior as well as actions. Your partner in such a relationship has drilled this idea into your head that you are wrong and he or she is absolutely right every time. You don’t find it in you to defend yourself or to defy your partner even when every strand of your body is telling you that he or she is wrong.
Such is the hold of the other person on you. Do some introspection. If you were a cheerful, charming, outgoing and full of energy person before you entered this relationship and now you are an emotionally exhausted person who seems to shy away from the company, then it is a sure shot sign of you being bogged down by a toxic relationship.
The green-eyed monster is always watching over you
Jealousy is one of the most common facets of such a relationship. You cannot talk to anyone on the phone without being subjected to a barrage of questions from your partner. Your partner has become so controlling about even the minutest of details about your life that you cannot even plan a lunch date with your girlfriends or meet your friends at the bar without taking his or her approval.
Having space to breathe and having a life of your own outside the relationship is very important. Do not mistake over obsessive behavior for love after a point of time. It is ok for your partner to worry about you or to be in the know about your programs but not being able to make your own decisions and being spied upon is not what you signed up for.
Depression seems to be your best friend
You find yourself chugging down a drink too many or those sleeping pills have become a constant fixture on your nightstand. Despite being in a relationship if the feeling of loneliness envelopes you all day, then, probably this relationship is not the best thing that has happened to you. A healthy relationship is supposed to make you feel content and happy and not dissatisfied with your life.
The world tries to show you the mirror
Your friends and family are the first ones to notice the changes in you even if you yourself cannot spot them or seem to deny them. Not everyone can be wrong about what they see the relationship is doing to you. Keep an open mind and listen to what they have to say about your partner and your relationship. Keep them close for when you decide to walk out of your toxic relationship it is they who will stand by you.
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