“Bin galti mafi mangu, kapde bhi wo phadte the;
Ladne ki jab bhi main thodi si himmat karta,
Toh mukke mar vo, meri himmat marte the…”
Have you heard the above lines some time back? These lines have been sung by India’s new rap sensation Akshay Dhawan and if you have watched the season 2 of ‘Dil Hai Hindustani’, a singing reality show aired on channel Star Plus a few months ago, then you must be aware of it.
Watching the show that day from the comfort of their homes. Though the composition was fabulous and the music was good but the sad part was that it was a harsh truth that had impacted Akshay’s life. This article will help you to deal with bullying in your school or college. so let’s get started.
How to Deal with Bullies in Your School or College?
Can we resemble it at a more or less extent? Have we experienced or heard of this being done to someone somewhere, an acquaintance or friend in school or college? Yes, friends, most of us cannot deny the fact that many of our schools and colleges do not have a secure atmosphere to an extent where we can be ourselves or comfortable at all times even if we haven’t done anything wrong academically or harmed anyone.
What does bullying mean?
According to The Bar association of India, it is defined as “Unwanted and repeated written,verbal or physical behavior including any threatening, insulting or dehumanizing gesture by a student or adult that is severe or pervasive enough to create an intimidating, hostile or offensive educational environment; cause discomfort or humiliation, or unreasonably interfere with the individual’s school or college performance or participation and may involve but is not limited to teasing, intimidation, stalking, physical violence, social exclusion, theft, sexual, religious or racial harassment, or destruction of property.”
Bullying is done by the seniors mostly to get upper hand over their juniors and boost their ego. Though the laws are prevalent in this regard nowadays that wasn’t the case a few decades ago. The sad part is that bullying still exists.
Fair or Unfair?
Long back ragging was considered ‘OK’ in schools and colleges as it was assumed that such practices would make the juniors or fresher’s strong. But as times passed the jovial and respectful relationship between seniors and juniors started changing to that of fear and resentment.
Of course, there used to be some good and helpful seniors who liked to guide their juniors, understand their struggles and problems while adjusting to the new environment but many a time this could not last for long. To maintain harmony with batch mates and for their own good such seniors had to suppress their humble emotions.
As times passed bullying became a means of boosting ego, taking out their frustrations for seniors. Chasing girls, passing nasty comments, taunts was not an unusual thing. Thanks to the good times that things are changing nowadays as strict punishments are given to tackle such issues keeping in mind the consequences and impact they leave on those facing bullying of any form.
Authorities and society at large started understanding that injustice and humiliation in the name of prank or fun could never be fair to the teenagers, youth and mankind at large. So, how must one deal with bullying in school or college?
How to deal with Bullies?
Sometimes you are not actually sure whether to share such issues with close ones or keep mum, will it bother your parents, the fear of being misunderstood or anything related on the same lines. But the question here is how to deal with it?
Whether one must suffer in silence or be ‘Tit for Tat’ which is not always easy given the circumstances and greater influence seniors have been it in schools, colleges or even hostels where the juniors have to spend maximum time in the same campus willingly or unwillingly.
If things can be sought out with mutual understanding, its always a winning situation but the important lesson here should be that it should not be repeated by those causing bullying in any form. Warnings especially repeated ones if not paid heed to, should be reported to trustworthy and concerned authorities by the teenagers and youth in schools and colleges.
Rather than worrying about consequences and negative outcome that might occur after taking the correct step, one must not delay help and suffer in silence. There is always someone whom you can trust, to whom u can confess and reach out during such hard times; be it your teachers, parents or elder siblings.
Though there is no separate legislation to deal with bullying at the school level, HRD (Human Resource Development) ministry of India has directed schools and colleges to form anti-ragging committees at school and college levels.
If the student committee insists on notice boards warning students of the same, bullying or ragging can be cut down to a great extent. UGC has also laid guidelines to all colleges across the country to follow anti-ragging rules in their respective universities.
Hence, teenagers and college students should not fear while demanding justice and take timely action if they are facing any form of bullying; as William E. Gladstone rightly said-
“Justice delayed is justice denied..!”
Do you get bullied in school? Or do you know someone who is facing bullying? Share the post with them and help them to take the right step. Thank you. 🙂