Being a parent of a teenager can sometimes be a difficult task. Teenagers are always called disrespectful and arrogant. And they act like that. But have anyone wonder why do they act like that? Well, in this article we are going to understand teenagers’ side of the story. Here we will be looking at how to deal with disrespectful and arrogant teenagers. Let’s do it.
How to Deal with Disrespectful and Arrogant Teenagers
Disrespect and arrogance can have different connotations for different people. When teenagers do not sit at the table with their family at the dining table at dinner time, it might be construed as disrespectful by the parents while for the teenagers it’s just how they wanted to behave at that moment. All teenagers go through this phase where hormones, social peer pressure, and pressure from the family regarding academics get together and suddenly it becomes too much to handle for them.
They are humans too and rather than admit their defeat in any of these areas or admit that they cannot handle it, most teenagers will take on the persona of arrogance. The phase passes eventually but parents must know how to handle and deal with their disrespectful and arrogant teenagers during this phase.
Why the Arrogance?
Your teenager is growing up and testing the waters as to how it feels to be independent. Any attempts by you at this stage to offer assistance are shunned by them as they feel that you do not have confidence in them or their abilities. So, asking them if they have had lunch sounds like ‘you can’t even remember to have lunch?’ to them. ‘How were your grades this semester’ will sound like’ You are a laggard in studies and I need to check up on you always’ to their ears.
The end result is most often an argument which ends with lots of screaming or the teenager shrugging his shoulders and walking off. It’s no one’s fault and not all teenagers will behave like this too. Their bodies and mind are going through a phase of change which makes them oversensitive and that is why parents at this time must tread carefully, for the teenagers are like a fragile piece of glass at this time. One hard shove and it can lead to a chink in the china which will stay forever.
How to Handle It As A Parent?
So here are some tips on how to deal with arrogant and disrespectful teenagers. Let’s take a look at them.
Staying calm is extremely important
If both the parties involved, get hyper about the situation then it will a scene straight out of a war movie in your house. The teenager’s behavior is being fueled by his or her immaturity but then you as a parent should be sensible enough to not take the bait and stay calm.
Your teenagers might want you to flare up intentionally during an argument for it will give them a chance to vent out their feelings. Stop the discussion if you feel that you might lose your cool too.
Set the Ground Rules
Their age is not an excuse to get away with rude behavior. You need to set some basic rules of the house but you need to do so without sounding like a dictator. Make it sound fun while still maintaining the seriousness of it. Draw up a funny chart with rules stating the time when children of the house need to be back home or simply hide the WiFi password amidst the mess in their room, asking them to clean it up to find the password. Setting these rules, laden with humor is surely going to lighten the mood in the house.
Praise Them Often
Despite all their arrogance and attitude, they would still be doing things that are praiseworthy. Those into music might have picked up a new song or those into gaming might have finished a really tough game. Your daughter might have got a new haircut which is looking great on her or written poetry which is fabulous. Praise them for things they are least expecting praise for and see them realize the fact that their parents do not always find faults with them.
Work on Yourself Too.
Parents too need to curb some of the urges that seem too strong at such times. There should be no nagging; sarcasm should be avoided at all times, no lecturing the teenagers till they sleep out of boredom and no talking when there is a heated moment going between the two of you. Give each other time to relax and calm down before resuming the discussion.
Correct the Behavior, Not the Person
Your teenager is still the same sweet kid at heart who loves you deeply. The person that they are does not change but it is their behavior which has become arrogant. Don’t tell them that they are disrespectful when they forget to greet the guests and walk right past them. Instead, tell them that it was an act of disrespect on their part.
Don’t Reprimand Them in Public
They are individuals who value their self-respect too. In case you feel that their behavior was disrespectful, do not reproach them in public, in front of relatives, and especially in front of their friends. You wouldn’t like it done to you, so, extend the same courtesy to them.
In the end, it is only your love, patience and a little understanding which is going to make you sail through this phase as this too shall pass!
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